Today I have a very special guest, my friend Monique. Monique has been an inspiration to me since we met and it is with great pleasure that I share this beautifully written piece of mothering wisdom with you.
Read it slowly.
Let it sink in.
Allow yourself to receive its wisdom and beauty.
Five Blessings for Busy Mothers:
A Blessing of Gratitude:
Daily Gratitude allows our contentedness to bloom, where before we eroded our Happiness with expectations and resentment.
Gratitude rituals make the small and simple blessings in our lives more meaningful, and in reverse, puts our bigger problems and frustrations into clearer perspective.
Gratitude is not only acknowledging what's good in our lives and ignoring the bad. It is actively looking for the positive, or the lesson, within our difficulties.
I wish for you Forgiveness:
Forgiveness allows you to start each and every day of your Mothering Journey as though it were your first.
Let go of yesterday - its' mistakes and regrets - and begin today anew.
Don't allow unpleasant memories and thoughts of the past to define you, or be the measure of who you are. Simply acknowledge the feelings or lessons from unpleasant moments, and re-invent yourself each day trusting you have gained new insights and skills from those moments.
I also wish for you Forgiveness of Others. Remembering that everyone is on their own learning journey allows us to forgive others' mistakes and regard them with compassion. In our relationships, discovering these forgiveness lessons together can be some of the most powerful learning, and loving, experiences.
A Blessing of Balance:
I wish for you the skill and wisdom to clearly recognise your own most important needs, and the commitment to be able to meet them.
As a Mother, it is easy for your own needs to become ignored or completely lost, and it becomes difficult to even realise or recognise what they are. It might sound crazy, but create Balance in your family by allowing your own needs to rate highly. Listen to your inner voice for guidance on what you really need and speak those needs without fear or guilt.
Self-nurture is key to fuelling your ability to nurture your children, partner, and family.
A Blessing of Spaciousness:
I wish for you spaciousness in heart, mind and soul. This feeling comes to me when I exercise or meditate. A feeling of spaciousness allows you to slow down life's rush, think with clarity and compassion, and be inspired and ready for change. Without it, the constant changes of life arrive while we're unprepared and we flounder under their weight.
Spaciousness of heart allows us to love generously and unconditionally, spaciousness of mind allows us to remain calm amidst the chaos of family life, and spaciousness of soul allows us to remain true to ourselves and not lose sight of our direction.
A Blessing of Beauty:
I don't mean superficial beauty. I mean the deep beauty that emanates from within you and flows out to colour your world. Everyone has it but not everyone shares it. Allow your inner beauty to flow into all the corners of your life.
Consider the beautification of your home and spaces, consider the beauty of your voice and the words you choose to speak to your children - sing to them.
Consider the sounds you make in daily life - are you clanging and banging, or are you doing a graceful dance of domesticity?
Consider your self-care as a way of beautifying your soul by richly nurturing yourself.
All these considerations of Beauty can become an excellent exercise in mindful living.
Allow your deepest inner beauty to shine in all you do. You are brimming with it, so share it with generosity.