"Today's busier, faster society is waging an undeclared war on childhood. With too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time, children can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed with behavioral problems.
Now internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need for their attention to deepen and their individuality to flourish.
Simplicity Parenting offers inspiration, ideas, and a blueprint for change:
- Streamline your home environment. Reduce the amount of toys, books, and clutter, as well as the lights, sounds, and general sensory overload.
- Establish rhythms and rituals. Discover ways to ease daily tensions, create battle-free mealtimes and bedtimes, and tell if your child is overwhelmed.
- Schedule a break in the schedule. Establish intervals of calm and connection in your child's daily torrent of constant doing.
- Scale back on media and parental involvement. Manage your children's "screen time" to limit the endless deluge of information and stimulation.
Simplicity Parenting is a manifesto for protecting the grace of childhood and an eloquent guide to bringing new rhythms to bear on the lifelong art of raising children."
Sounds good to me.
The author focuses first on the problem of over stimulation and busy lifestyles and then he offers loads of ideas. I did feel sometimes that he was talking to the partially converted but his concept is brilliant, his experience and research is sound and his message is for all families who want to slow down and simplify a little more... or a lot more!
Although I must admit I have a confession to make.
Do I want my children to be less stimulated by so much 'stuff'? Yes, and I also want this for myself.
Do I want my children to not be rushing to get out of the door in the morning or to get to an activity? Yes, and I also prefer this for myself.
Do I want my children to have less toys to teach them the value of taking care of things that they own and to use their imagination more and more? Yes, and I want this for myself. I also want less crap to pack up and put away at the end of the day with them.
Do I want my children to have a calm and peaceful flow to their day with predictable rhythms and routines? Yes, and I also want this for myself.
Do I want my children to know how important they are to me by the meaningful connections we engage in? Yes! With all my heart, YES!
Do I want my children to have lots of down time and to even be bored, *gasp* LOL. Yes, I do and I also wish for this myself. Boredom is often the precursor before creativity.
Do I want my children to not be bombarded from every angle by technology and modern stimulation? Yes, and I also want this for myself...nature is a natural energiser!
So yes, I like the ideas that this book offers for the benefit of my children and I also like the benefits for myself.
As a Mum who has been focusing on Extreme Self-Care for the latter half of this year after a tendency to over-give, over-commit and feel overwhelmed, this book is just right. My children benefit and I benefit :-)
Extreme Self-Care....does that phrase make you smile? It's like bungee jumping but it's not.
It's taking a nap.
Or having a cup of tea in the sunshine when the kids are watching Playschool.
Or going to bed when they do.
Or suggesting to them an activity that YOU like to do for a change.
I'll be reading the book slowly again and I'll be implementing some changes too.
PS. Here is a link to their website if you want more info, there are loads of articles on there.